Like so many times before, I started and then failed. I hate when I do that. That being said, it is a process. Would I like to flip a switch and never look back at the unhealthy person I was? Of course. There are little, to no one, that can do that. I am absolutely cannot. Clearly; as I have been working on this for years!
That is what I am going to talk about today. On top of updating my goals for the week and the rest of the month, I am going to talk about how I personally deal with the failures that arise in my healthy life.
How I Deal with the FailuresThere are many things that cross my mind when I hit a snag in getting healthy or just plain ol' flush it down the toilet.
- I should just give up.
- I am never going to accomplish this.
- I am a failure.
- This isn't working.
- I suck!
- I am so done with feeling like this!
- Here we go again.
- Time to start over again!
That is pretty much how my entire though process goes. Usually it just ends up with me feeling sorry for myself, hating on myself, and ripping myself apart. That is a terrible cycle to be in! When I say cycle, I mean it! A constant round-and-round battle with myself. This is usually how I handle these things. Terrible, right?[tweet-quote via="march2december"]When I say cycle, I mean it! A constant round-and-round battle with myself.[/tweet-quote]
This past week, I let myself get behind in the steps-challenge with my husband and dad. By Tuesday I had given up. There was no way (in my mind) that I was going to come back and win. So stupidly, I gave up. Not only did I give up on the step-challenge, I gave up on everything else too. No working out. No eating healthy. Drinking all the Dr. Peppers. Seriously! With one thought, I failed an entire week. I sabotaged everything that I had done the week before. If not more.
What Did I Do Differently This Time?Well starting out, nothing. I knew in the back of my mind what I was doing. Yesterday it shoved its way to the front of my mind. The never ending beating myself up cycle started. I was apologizing to my husband for being fat. (which he put a stop to immediately). I was feeling sorry for myself. I was calling myself names. I hated everything that I was wearing.
Then something clicked. This wasn't healthy! Yes, I messed up. I am human. We all have those little failures in reaching a goal. Does that mean I failed at the entire goal? No! I can start right back up from where I am at. Not tomorrow. Not the following Monday. Right that moment.
I was lying in bed (because I threw my back out.) thinking. How healthy am I if I am calling myself names? Will I ever accomplish my goal if with every set back, I stop and then beat myself up? No! That isn't healthy and I will never accomplish anything.
The Life LessonThe thought popped in my head about my son. He was learning how to dive this past week. He kept trying and he kept failing. He would get so mad at himself, beat himself up and then say he wasn't going to do it anymore. When I asked him why, he said that it was because he kept failing at it. Well...mister...that isn't going to fly! I talked to him about trying and never giving up. I told him that anything worth having is worth working for. I told him that I knew he could do it. He isn't a failure and he shouldn't talk about himself like that. I wouldn't let anyone else say those things about him. I am not going to allow him to either....
::: crickets :::
Yep. I know. I know! As I was telling him these things, I wasn't giving myself that pep talk. I was in the mind set that my son was worth it, but I was not. That just simply isn't true and it sure as heck isn't healthy!
All this was said to say this. It is all a mind over matter thing. It is a day-to-day...no!...a moment-to-moment battle. We are faced with those choices all day. Do I drink the soda or should I just go get a glass of water? It is too hot to go for a walk. I will just sit here in the cool A/C. Each moment is a potential winning moment or a failure. Are we always going to win? No. (If you are...go you!!)
[tweet-quote via="march2december"]It is a day-to-day...no!...a moment-to-moment battle. [/tweet-quote] I am taking each moment as just that. Another opportunity to win. Another small victory. I cannot...will not...let one failed moment sabotage weeks of work. I will talk to myself the way I would talk to my son.
How I deal with failures? Usually very badly! Now, they are only a small moment in a bigger picture. I will not let them define who I am or my goals.
I hope that helps at least one person get back on track and stop with the unhealthy way of thinking. Now on to
This Week's GoalsI am not even going to talk about my last goals. See the previous writings above. I am sure you can figure out what happened. I am going to use those goals for this week, as well as a few others.
- Give it to God
- Be Active
- No Soda
- Positive Thinking
I found that not only did I give up on being healthy, I didn't read my bible once! I wasn't active. I drank all the soda. I tore myself apart. This week is going to be different!
If You have any tips, tricks, or suggestions I would love to hear them. That isn't just me saying it for the sake of the blog. I mean it. I cannot do this alone and I am not above getting ideas or even criticism from others. If you have a story on how you got started, link me up! I will not only love reading it, I will post it to my social media accounts. Very few people can live the healthy life without motivation and ideas from others.