The Mom Life | Raising an Only Child

Hello everyone! I hope this finds you all well. Today, I am going to talk about being a Mom. More specifically, being a Mom to one. I will go ahead and say it. This is just my experience in raising a boy, only child, and so on. Is the way I parent the right way? Is there a right way?! I raise my son with God's guidence and what my husband and I think is best. You raise yours the way you see fit! ;-) this is just my thoughts, ideas, and what I have personally experienced. 

Now that we got that out of the way, I should probably give a little background on my "Mom Life". My husband and I got married March of one year. That April I found out I was pregnant. That December we were parents. (In case you didn't catch it. That is how this blog got that name. March to December. Also, you can read about Z's birth story HERE.) That was nearly 8 years ago.

That is right. We have one kid who is going to be 8. I do get that question, often actually. "When are you going to have another kid?" or "When are you going to have Z a little brother/sister?" Personally, I wouldn't ever ask anyone that. That is a really personal choice. Does it upset me when people ask?! No. I understand why they are. In this day and age, people do not usually just have one child.

My sister has 3 (all boys!), I just have the one child, some of my friends have 2, some of them have more than 3, and some of them do not have any at all. All of us have made a personal choice! Our choice comes from many stand points. Some of which include financial and medical. We would be happy with another child! In fact we were in the talks of adopting a little girl. That fell through though. So, it isn't that we don't want other children. It just hasn't happened. That being said, I am 110% happy being just Z's momma.

Being a parent is a lot of work. Being a parent of more than once child is a crazy amount of work to me. You are constantly being pulled in multiple directions. I know that as humans we tend to look at other's life as "greener on the other side." While parenting just one child isn't as busy as multiple children. It isn't all naps, tv binge watching, and sexy time. This is what I learned being a mom of 1.

  1. I am my child's playmate: It isn't his choice that he is an only child & does not have siblings to play with. No one wants to see their child sad & lonely. I do tell him, "not right now". In fact, I don't have a problem with telling him that. It is good for a child to hear, "no"! However, I have played more Xbox, Lego's, Star Wars, & Ninja Turtles since he has been born than I did playing Barbies growing up. He isn't always going to want to hang out with his parents. I try to sap all those moments up now. 

  2. You have to say no...a lot: No parent like to tell their child no. I find that as a mom of just one boy, I have a harder time saying no. Like I want to make up for him not having a sibling by giving him everything he wants, entertaining him at all times, and trying to make him happy. I constantly have to police myself with that. Being a "yes-mom" can have terrible outcomes. I don't want to raise a boy to a man who thinks everything he wants (good or bad) he should get. Makes me shutter to think about that!!

  3. He is my only hope for grand-babies!: When you only have the one child & not at least an "heir and a spare", you are putting your grandparent future in their hands. What if they don't want to have kids?! What if they cannot have kids?! So on and so forth. One of the best things about parenting is being able to help with your grand-babies when you are older. 

Okay, so there are many many many more things that come to raising just one kid. I will save them for a later date though. I am asking you now. What have you noticed about raising one kid? Or even yet, when you had your 2nd, 3rd and so on child. What differences did you notice? I really would like to know these things! 

Wordless Wednesday | Love

The Man Behind The Blog | Vol. 001

Good morning everyone! Week #2 of my new job. At what point do I stop calling it my new job? Anyway, I thought it would be a bit fun to get to know the March of March to December. My better half (and I am not just saying that. He is truly my better half!). So, I asked him some fun questions.

1. What would you do with $1,000,000? I would pay off our house and debt. Then I would take us and the extended family on a kick ass vacation to Disney world. You a new car. Then the rest would get saved for our retirement and Isaiah’s college, and invested.

2. If you were an animal, what animal would you be? Wolf, duh there freaking awesome.

3. What is your favorite meal? Depends on what I’m in the mood for it could be Fried rice and shrimp, or a nice juicy hamburger, or pizza…those are def my 3 favorites.

4. Describe yourself in 3 words: Laid back awesomness  

 5. Introduce yourself in 140 words or less: My name is Jeremy, I have a wonderful wife and son. I love to laugh and be sarcastic. I like to watch movies and eat popcorn. I really enjoy hanging out with my family…I’m not a go out and hang with the “guys” type of guy.

 6. Do you read your wife's blog? If so, what is your favorite post? I try and read them all. I really don’t have a favorite.

There you have it! Some interesting tidbits about Mr. March. They are typical March kinda responses. Nothing was a shock to me. I think everyone has that conversation about what you would do if you wont the lottery. If you haven't, do it! It is a fun conversation.

The reason he said wolves is because he used to work with them. He volunteered at the local nature center when we first started dating.He worked with the wolves.

Those are his favorite food. Although, he also loves home made tacos. Nothing fancy. Just some El Paso seasoning, hamburger meat, cheese and wraps. Makes him happy.

#4....yup. That is typical March....and true. :-)

He is a home body and does love movies and popcorn. If he could (maybe having more than $1M) he would open a movie theater. He loves the whole experience that much!

These kinds of posts are fun. If you have a willing partner, ask them! Link me up!

My New Job's 1st Week

This is a panoramic view of my new office. Like I said in the post about getting a new job, I am not going to really talk about my job. However, this was week 1 and it was a doozy! After this post, you will likely never hear me speak of it again. Here is my week in photos!

1st day jitters & no idea what I was in store for!

walking in to the loudest place I've ever been & told this was to be my office. gulp!

Day 2. Dressed down a bit & spent 99% of the day sitting & doing nothing.

Day 3. The view out my door. 

Day 3. More sitting. Feeling a bit annoyed. 

Day 4. 100% dressed down. Panda Loving! ABOUT TIME! I got some training!

I went from an office to myself. It was so so so quiet & in a business complex. To in the middle of a production mean, die pounding out metal right out my door & sharing an office. However, yesterday I finally felt like I didn't make a mistake and this was the job for me. I am 110% ready to tackle this job & make it my own!! 



Wordless Wednesday | Pumpkin Love

Hello Mom Parody | "If I have to say it again!..."

ha ha ha. I just had to share this. I was having this conversation with my 7 year old son just last week. It went a little like this...

Me - "Z get undressed & I will run your bath water"
Z- plays with the dog & lots of giggles
Me - " Did you hear me?! Get undressed for your bath!"
Z - more giggles & the sound of the dog going crazy
Me, stomping down the hall - " DID YOU HEAR ME?! GET UNDRESSED!! BATH TIME!!" 
Z - "okay mommy"...continues to play with the dog
Me, losing my mind - "I swear if you don't start listening and stop making me repeat myself I am going to start taking things away with every thing I repeat until you are sitting in your bedroom and all you have to do is read or sleep!" 

Finally goes to the bathroom & gets undressed. I don't know if it is just a phase or it is because he is honing that selective hearing that most men have. I swear I spend half my day repeating everything I say to him. I wouldn't have dared not to listen, respond, and do the first time my Mom or MeeMaw asked me to do something. So this just blows my mind!

He does have an attention problem & always has. That is part of his problem at school. We are always working on that. It is kinda of nice to know that I am not the only one dealing with this. So, I thought I would share this funny parody. I hope you enjoy it as much as I do.

ps: You should see (smell) the grime in his bathroom. I refuse to go on in there!! Boys are gross.

pps: I usually like all of Adele's songs. This one...grates on my every last nerve. I cannot put my finger on to as why. Do you like it?

Please tell me and this poor lady are not the only ones repeating ourselves! 

Scrapbooking Saturday | 027

As this is the 27th scrapbooking post I've done, you gotta know it is kinda my thing! I have another blog dedicated to my layouts & fun things the designers I work with do. You can also find all my layouts on my pinterest. Today I am stopping by to show them off here. I like to look back on them and show them off. So, here we are!

credits: Grateful Hearts and Grateful Hearts wordart by Sherry Ferguson

My son (singer) and nephews in their new band. :-) A combination of their last names. credits: Boy Zone by Bella Gypsy Designs and Stack Pack Vol.1 by Dagi Temptations

credits: #selfieaddict {Bundle} by Digilicious Design

credits: Salem Boolevard Collections by Meagan's Creations and Scrapyrus Designs and template by Christaly Scraps

Interested in getting started in digi-scrapbooking? I taught myself. Seriously! If I can do it, you can too. I got a photo editing program and looked up tutorials. There are a lot more now than there were 7 years ago. I did a lot of googling. I would suggest starting HERE & HERE. There is a great collection on TUTS. From the beginning to the difficult.
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